Will You Trust Me?
What is the meaning of the word trust?
- Firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something
- Acceptance of the truth of a statement without evidence or investigation
Trust is taking a beating. If you are white, between the ages of 50 -64, married, earning more than $100K a year, and live in a rural area, at the very best, less than half of you are really trusting. If you happen to be black, between the ages of 18 – 29, not married, have a family income of less than $30K, and live in a large city, you are leery of nearly everyone and everything.
I trust no one, not even myself.
Sometimes I wonder if this isn’t where we are headed. Is there a possibility we could eventually not trust anyone, even ourselves?
Given a moment to ponder this, we begin to realize the eventual outcome could be disastrous. What kind of life would we have? How does lack of trust affect our families, friends, businesses. How does it impact the economy, the military, our decisions in life. What does it do to our marriages, ability to love and parent. It is by trust that we feel confident enough to grow and expand. As we lose trust in others we hold tighter to our trust in ourselves. Even if everyone else lets me down, at least I can have faith in myself. But what will happen if I begin to lose belief in what I can accomplish? What kind of results will the results be. How does trust, or the lack thereof, affect what we are able to think, expand, grow, meander, wonder, explore, innovate and create?
One of the things I have marveled over, since I started blogging, is how guarded we are. As bloggers we are careful not to put too much private information about ourselves out there. Why? Because we are all concerned some psycho will track us down, rape our women (or men), and mutilate our children. In essence we don’t trust. And you know what? I’m one of them. I have revealed my wife is Susie, my dog is Jake (the Wonder Dog), I help raise a couple of cats, I live somewhere in the Midwest, my name is Stephen Edwards, we have a grandson, and that is about it. I guess if someone really wanted to look and search, it would be possible to eventually find me.
I want to trust. I want to trust you, the readers of this blog, my neighbors, the folks who live at the top of our hill, the people we do business with, and I would even like to trust our government. I don’t, but I would like to.
In the business world, the huge buzz word at the moment is passion. You have to be passionate about this or that. You need passion to drive excellence. You need to find your passion. I use/over use it too. It is part of my lexicon when I talk whether I am speaking to individuals or businesses. Here is my prediction for the next buzz word to sweep through business/spiritual/life spheres…trust.
The loss of trust does not leave a vacuum.
Paranoia takes it place.
Paranoia refers to the perception or suspicion that others have hostile or aggressive motives in interacting with them (for example, “they are out to get me”), when in fact there is no reason for these suspicions. People experiencing paranoia believe that others are persecuting them and have delusional ideas about themselves as central figures in scenarios that in reality have little relevance to them. Minor feelings of paranoia are common, but severe paranoia can cause significant fear and anxiety and can have a pronounced effect on social functioning. Feelings of paranoia can be observed with many psychological disorders, including schizophrenia, as well as with a number of medical diseases, ranging from Alzheimer’s disease to multiple sclerosis, that can affect brain function.
Personally, I’m going to work a lot harder on my trust issues.