Sometimes All You Have Is a Dog (Cat)
Doesn’t the scene represented in this photo seem like our lives sometimes? We feel like we have been set on something far too big for us to handle, by circumstances beyond our control, and the only friend we have left in the world is our trusty canine (or feline) companion. We get caught up in the ins and outs, the ups and downs of life and almost before we have a chance to catch our breath, much less figure out what is going on, there we are sitting a straddle of something we can barely comprehend. Meanwhile all of our friends are either staring blankly back at us or departed long ago into the morass of their own lives. Of course, we all have those friends who like to hang around, much like the type of folks who pull over when passing a car wreck on the interstate, so they can get a better view.
So what do we do, when we find ourselves in these straits? What actions do we take? How do we make decisions? How do we even begin to think?
One of blogs I follow is entitled, “Lessons From the End of a Marriage” (www.lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com) She writes about the day in 2009, after ten years of being married without a single clue anything might be a miss, when she received a text from her husband announcing he was leaving her. I commented after one of her posts how incredibly proud I was of how she had turned a nasty horrible negative situation into a place of strength. Her reply rocked my boat, she said, “It’s devastating, but not a death sentence.”
“It’s devastating, but not a death sentence.”
There is a growth mindset. The mindset that says, “Failure is not the end of everything, but something I must deal with along life’s path.” She did not cave in and crumple up. She didn’t give up on every man who ever drew breath. She didn’t seek solace in personal medication. She pulled herself together and went on with her life.
Here is a partial/edited list of lessons (for a complete list please go to her website) she learned:
1) Fear is greatest right before the plunge.
2) Softness is complimentary to strength, not on opposition to it.
3) Tsunamis can wash out relationships, be wary of what hides in the depths.
4) Interdependence is preferable to complete independence.
5) Be not do.
6) Stress is a choice.
7) Forgiveness is possible even against the unforgivable. Actually, it’s not just possible; it’s required to move forward.
8) Happiness is found in acceptance, not control.
Those look like good lessons to me. It doesn’t matter whether you are applying these to your personal life or to your career, or to a small business you are running. They are words that speak truth. They are words to live by.