Life is a Revelation…be encouraged

Isn’t this the Truth? I understand rarely does the person asking, “How ya doin? expecting a full blown litany of our physical and mental state at the time the question was asked, but perhaps we might be slight ly more realistic or simply find another question to ask in the first place.

Be encouraged!

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  1. Tara Woodruff ~ The Challenge on said:


  2. Yeah, funny how you never think of that as being a lie. 😉

    • I remember once being asked, “How’s it going?” and I literally held the person captive for about five minutes while I gave them a run down on what was going on in my life…they thought I was completely insane and I don’t remember feeling so proud of myself…so maybe I’m fine isn’t so bad.

      Be encouraged!

  3. I gotta tell you Stephen, I do not like to lie.
    Not even white lies to ease my kids pain when a pet dies “the kitty ran away” I tell them the way it is and try to make them understand its a part of life.
    When my brother was sick with cancer this spring I did tell my youngest “everything will be fine” but we didn’t have a prognosis yet but I knew it was bad.
    When he did pass I held off telling her for a day, I was going to wait because it would be a whole week before his service and I didn’t want her being distracted in school, then I thought she may never forgive for lying to her if she finds out so I told her. I am guilty of telling people I am fine even in the times when I am not, it is just I don’t want anyone’s pity or anyone to worry for me, but for the most part I am always fine, even when I am not because I know it will pass.

    • You know Jim I believe a great number of people share your exact thoughts. Many do not like to lie or be lied to. We make every effort to ensure we are open with our children and set a good example. And even when we answer, “We are fine.” we do so not out of a wish to deceive, but with an understanding the individual is asking about our overall well being, not the fine points which may be off at that moment.

      The trouble comes with those who say the empathize with this sentiment, but their lives show something completely different. They will lie when the heat is on, or to be perceived better than they are, or to cover up, or to get ahead, or to see others suffer, or for whatever reason that pops into their minds to give cover to deceptive behavior. I have encountered these types in walks of life, from tent cities down by the river to the glassed in corner office on the top floor with the commanding view.

      I believe lying has become far to pervasive in our personal relationships, in our businesses, in our churches, in our schools, in our politics, in our armed forces, in just about every aspect of our lives. And I guess what worries me the most is our acceptance that it is simply “how it is.” Of course as you know, I am on a mission to change the world. 🙂

      Thanks for taking the time to comment, Jim. I always enjoy your thoughts.

      Be encouraged!

  4. Thank you Stephen !

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    I would be honoured if you accept!

  6. Quite often when we say “I’m fine” knowing the person likely is only asking to be polite…want them to offer us more of an opportunity to really tell them that we’re not so fine…maybe by our body language or tone of voice or whatever…I think we hope that they’ll notice and say…”how are you really” which then opens up the conversation a bit…but not for a ‘litany’ for sure…Diane

  7. this just happened to us, my family and I were on vacation and taking a taxi from point A to point B (can’t remember really) and the taxi driver asked where we were from and my husband answered, then my husband being polite asked, “…and you?” …OMG the taxi driver told us his whole life story and knowing my husband, who will ask HOW ARE YOU DOING? just as an icebreaker kind of thing and also not a very talkative person, got an ear full… I felt uncomfortable because I knew my husband was unconfortable and feeling the man was oversharing (no wonder my hubby doesn’t read my blog) however i did enjoy listening to the man and his take on life and the difference between the big city and the small town way of living… at least here in Mexico, it is out of politeness and political correctness that you make those EMPTY questions, something I don’t agree with because I do consider and have always been aware of saying FINE, THANK YOU as being a lie one get’s cornered into … read you soon, thanks for the thought provoking post, Alexandra

  8. The line we cross can obviously be a very thin line. Sometimes there are the politically correct, the nice, and polite who, given another word for it haven’t lied from my perspective.

    Btw, I was going to say, I’m fine but, I’m not……………yet!

    I’m encouraged!

  9. Okay, Stephen, you really caught me on this one. Very true.

  10. You’re right, it is the truth. I have a friend who says “I’m fine” all the time when people ask how he is. But he isn’t fine. It makes me sad that his default is to say that everything is OK when it isn’t.

    • You know Stacie, I think the problem is in the question and not the answer. We ask, “How ya doin’? but what we really mean is “Nice to see you gotta go.” And we know that. We understand you aren’t interested in our well being. You are just being polite (sort of). Meanwhile if you are hurting or there are situations in your life you would like to discuss, too bad, you are not going to get the chance. The end result is, we have less compassion and hurting people never get the opportunity to vent in a healthy manner.

      Just a few thoughts…but you’ve commented enough times on my blog to know I tend to give really l-o-n-g replies. 🙂

      Be encouraged!

      • I think you’re absolutely right. I wrote a post a few months ago on a neighbor who underwent brain surgery and touched on the exact theme. I hope you’re well…truly!

      • I’m well…but I’ll be better when book is done and new business is finally launched…not such a great idea to try to do two MAJOR projects at once…but we are getting there…and I’m assisted by a phenomenal staff.

        I hope you and yours are having a great weekend.

        Be encouraged!

  11. I’m just beginning to catch up on blogs I missed while on vacation. As always, you get me to thinking about the way in which we express ourselves either truthfully or with lies. 🙂

  12. So true… 😉

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