Life is a Revelation…be encouraged

Food for some serious thought. Take a moment and look at these statistics. Ponder what they truly represent. And if your are one of the statistics I want you to take some time and really consider what are you doing. I was once one of you, so I know. Trust me…life is far better without it.
Be encouraged!

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  1. Hmm…food for thought!

  2. I suspect these figures mirror an overwhelming need for connection in America without a positive outlet for that expression in our culture and lives. Not sure what to think about this, since I’m a liberal live and let live type of person for the most part. But it does disturb me that much of our advertising and entertainment have a salacious component to it, which doesn’t lead to living with higher values. I can’t say that I want my children to be doing this either.

    I’d like to hear more of your thoughts about this in future posts.

  3. I thought the figures would be higher. lol. Only 2 adult sites are in top 100? Only 8% of emails are pornographic? I thought it would be like, the majority.

    I read an interesting article a while ago. This article theorizes how porn may actually help deter sexual violence, since it provides an outlet for people to express their sexual urges.

    As for women watching porn. Have you ever seen the college humor video “Girls watch porn too”? It’s so hilarious, but it does help tell girls that it’s okay to watch porn, because believe it or not, women like sex too! I know…shocking…

    I actually don’t think there should be too much restrictions when it comes to free porn on the internet. It should be up to the parents to use parental control themselves if they don’t want their kids to be seeing porn. I actually think the “accidental discovery” of pornography while young is, in a way, kind of healthy. Sure, 11 is kind of young to know about sex, but kids in their teens should actually slowly start to understand what sex is. I don’t have children, but if I did, I would much rather they learn about stuff in the safety of their own homes, behind a computer, rather than going out and having sex themselves before knowing anything.

    But watching porn at work?? Wtf?? Seriously, I never understood that. There’s a time and a place. How do people even get away with that?

    • Interesting thoughts…when I posted this I wondered if you would comment…I remember some excellent conversations with you regarding my Chastity post.

      You are right about the percentages and I too thought they would be higher, but those “low” percentages still represent millions of people.

      I am old so I’ve seen a few trends over the years and every once in a while some study comes along in an effort to show that porn viewing is somehow beneficial. However, the overwhelming, and I do mean OVERWHELMING information definitely shows exactly the opposite. I also believe all the “good” deemed from porn could be acquired another way without the obvious demeaning side effects of the porn industry.

      I pretty sure I understand woman like sex too, but look around the blog world and read some of the blogs from women who have been in the industry. They portray a vastly different image of the sex for profit trade.

      I am far from being a prude. I grew up in the era of “free love,” which was code for sleeping around as much as possible. And I did that. First as a member of a rock n’ roll band and later as a drug dealer with an annual income exceeding seven figures a year I indulged in every sexual whim I was able to think of. In the years since those days I have given considerable thought to the wisdom of having sex whenever and wherever and with whomever I wanted. As I stated when we were conversing about the Chastity post, I firmly believe we forego a little of ourselves each time we sleep with a different partner. True love making, with commitment and responsibility, goes to a far different level.

      While we may never agree where to draw the line, I always appreciate your comments and thoughts. You are obviously intelligent and give considerable thought to what you write. I sincerely hope you never take offence to anything I write. I have lived through much (not to pull the the I’m older so therefore wiser card) and like the African proverb says, An old man is not like a young man.”

      Thanks again for taking the time to write…and as always…

      Be encouraged!

      • I’m very glad to have these discussions with you. And no need to worry, I do not take offence at all. In fact I think your point of view is often more valid, since you obviously have more life experience and is wiser than I.

        I didn’t mean to say that porn is entirely good. I definitely agree that it’s not always entirely positive. I have no doubt the porn industry is sexist and often very demeaning. However, I think it’s largely due to the fact that it has historically been male dominated. It is possible that if more and more women control the porn industry, there may be a more balanced and tasteful approach to porn. Of course, that’s just my theory.

        In terms of sexual encounters, I actually do agree with you that there is a difference between just randomly sleeping around and sex in a true, loving and committed relationship. I definitely do not have as much life experience as you, but I too have had my fair share of meaningless encounters vs. actually being with someone I love. And yeah, I would have to say, nothing compares to actually being deeply committed to someone.

        However, I still think that it’s important for people to be more free when they’re young. People should not feel the need to be in a tied-down relationship in their youth, and enjoy experiences with a variety of people, in a trusting, non-deceitful way of course. But I don’t think people should be sleeping around all the time for their entire lives. Everyone needs to grow up, and at some point they should quit experimenting and actually decide what they want. I mean, I know this guy who’s 50 years old and he still brings a different girl home every night. That’s not only un-hygienic, it’s downright creepy. He just seems like a person who never grew up.

        Anyway, always enjoy the interesting topics you bring up πŸ™‚

      • I can’t tell you how much I value our exchange of thoughts and ideas. Your willingness to discuss differing points of view while remaining calm, logical, and with an understanding that we are discussing concepts and not leveling personal attacks at one another is so completely refreshing that I get caught up in the sheer joy of the moment. So thank you.

        Btw…the 50 year old guy with different woman every night is creepy…but what about the women? As the old saying goes, “It takes two to tango.”

        Be encouraged!

      • It’s so creepy. The women he meets are mostly from Craigslist or random girls he meets at a bar. Some of them are probably just as creepy as he is. I only know him through a friend so I don’t know exactly what types of women he brings home, but I don’t really want to know. He actually hit on me the first time I met him and and I was like umm, please get away from me, you’re older than my parents. And he never bothered me again lol. Still, I try to avoid him if possible.

      • While I rarely counsel avoidance as a method of dealing with issues…I think I’ll make an exception in this case. Sounds like the best plan of action.

        Also just for the record…I am grateful I was not born female…I can’t believe all the sh*t you all have to put up with…although sometimes it sickens me to be male when I see what my fellow gender mates believe they can get away with.

        Be encouraged!

      • One of my fellow bloggers just sent me this and it reminded me of our conversations:

        β€œGreat minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

        Have a great rest of the week.

        Be encouraged!

      • livvy1234 on said:

        Sometimes. All concepts are not written in stone. Great minds discuss great ideas? What is a great mind? What is a small mind? What is an average mind? Does a great mind always think great thoughts? Answer – sometimes yes, sometimes no, sometimes yes and no. LOL

      • Perfect…thanks.

        Be encouraged!

      • @livvy1234, lol there’s no need to over-analyze an encouraging, rhetorical quote.

      • livvy1234 on said:

        yibeichen, regarding your response that I “there is no need to over analyze a rhetorical quote…”

        I thoroughly enjoy analyzing my thoughts about words, phrases, language in general. My truth is not your truth but thank you for your share!

  4. livvy1234 on said:

    My dear friend is a victim of a porn addict. He is now her ex spouse. She is an “attractive, elegant, down to earth therapist whose life is dedicated to truth and living ethically. Not only once, but twice and thrice and one hundred thousand times her spouse not only went on porn sites, but continued to see prostitutes.

    When she finally left him, he has tried to kill her. He has a fine job, and is protected by his fine male friends (good old boys club). He came to her home last time and poured gasoline on top of his head and shot his gun into the air on her porch. Take porn and shove it. And shove the men over the cliff who cannot stop googling. May the pox be on them!

    • And it all seems so innocent when you here people talking about it…I mean my God everyone is an adult…no one is getting hurt…there must be other issues.

      I’ve heard them all, but the truth is this stuff is wickedly dangerous. I sincerely hope you dear friend is able to recover, flourish, and find the love of her life.

      Be encouraged!

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